Planning a Wedding is Hard

RO:

Inainte de a ma logodi nu pot sa zic ca eram in mod special pasionata de planificarea unei nunti. Ma mai uitam ocazional la cate o emisiune la televizor, dar niciodata nu ma gandeam “Bun, daca ar fi nunta mea, as face asa…”. Apoi treptat, pe masura ce eu si Didi deveneam tot mai seriosi si incepeam sa avem discutii cu ce vom face pe viitor, am inceput, cand ma mai plictiseam, sa ma uit pe cate un site, sau pe Pinterest, etc.

Cand ne-am logodit parca ma bucuram ca in sfarsit pot sa ma apuc de treaba. E putin ciudat cand esti primul dintre cei din cercul tau de prieteni care se casatoreste. Nu ai cui sa ceri pareri, sfaturi, iar sfaturile parintilor pot sa fie uneori putin depasite. Asa ca  am inceput sa ma documentez putin pe internet.

Pentru ca stiam deja unde vrem sa tinem nunta, ne-am miscat destul de repede si am rezervat sala Roma de la Grand Hotel Napoca din Cluj Napoca, iar dupa ce aveam data nuntii puteam porni organizarea nuntii.

La momentul respectiv ma bucuram ca avem un an si jumatate pentru planificarea nuntii, ma gandeam ca nu ne vom stresa, ca vom rezolva totul treptat si asa mai departe. Evident ca ma inselasem. 🙂

Dupa ce am rezervat sala, de fiecare data cand il abordam pe Didi sau pe parinti cu idei de nunta, primeam vesnicul raspuns “Mai este destul timp. Nu te stresa”. Singurul moment cand am pus piciorul in prag a fost cand am fortat cumva rezervarea fotografului, dar cam asta fusese tot, iar pregatirile de nunta au fost putin amanate.

Am zis ca o lasam putin mai moale macar pana cu un an inainte de luna. Uitasem ca aveam de prezentat si licenta, care a mai furat o luna, doua, din timpul pregatirilor. Dar asa parca s-a nimerit, ca atunci cand nu voiam sa ne ocupam de nunta,venea cineva sa ne intrebe daca am mai rezolvat ceva, daca nu avem nevoie de ceva, etc. Si uite asa intram intr-o hora care nu se mai termina.  Cand vrem noi sa ne ocupam de pregatiri lumea ne zice sa nu ne stresam ca mai este mult pana la nunta, cand nu vrem sa ne ocupam atunci te bombardeaza toti.

Plus ca fiind primii din familiile noastre care se casatoresc, cumva toata lumea ar vrea sa fie implicata in pregatiri, sa ofere sugestii, sa impuna sa se respecte anumite obiceiuri si asa mai departe. E greu cateodata sa ii opresti. Si pe de alta parte nu vrei sa ii opresti pentru ca este o ocazie importanta si pentru ei.

Discutand la un moment dat cu un wedding planner, imi spunea ca are de multe ori miri care nu vor sa se ocupe de loc de organizare si ii lasa ei mana libera. Cateodata mi se pare ca e o idee foarte buna, pana imi amintesc ca eu sunt o maniaca obsedata de control si cred ca as inebuni sa nu stiu cum o sa fie fiecare detaliu in timpul nuntii.

Sper totusi ca pe masura ce se apropie nunta sa nu ma trezesc ca am devenit o Bridezilla pe care nu o mai suporta nimeni 🙂

 

EN:

Before we got engaged i was not particularly interested in planning a wedding. I used to occasionally watch some wedding show on tv, but i never thought that i would do this for my wedding, and that , and so on. But then, as me and Didi were getting more serious and were starting to have some of the more serious talks, i started, when i had nothing else to do and i was bored, to go on some sites, or on Pinterest.

When we got engaged i was kind of excited that i could finally start planning stuff. Its a bit weird when you are the first in your friend circle to get married. You don’t really have someone you can really talk about stuff, or ask for opinions, and sometimes the parent’s advice can be dated. So i started doing some research online.

Because we already knew where we wanted to have our wedding, we went straight to Grand Hotel Napoca in Cluj Napoca and we booked the Roma ballroom. So after we had our wedding date, we could start planning the rest.

At the time i was glad that we had a year and a half to plan the wedding, and i kept thinking that we would not be stressed out, that we would plan everything in advance and so on. I was obviously wrong:)

After booking the venue, every time i approached Didi or my parents with wedding ideas, i kept getting the answer “”There is enough time. Don’t be so stressed out”. The only time when i put my foot down was when i forced the booking of the photographer, but that was about it, and the wedding planning was put on hold.

We agreed to put on hold the planning until there was one year to go. However, we forgot that i had to finalize and present my licence thesis, which put us back almost two months. The most annoying thing was that  when we decided to stop the planning for a while, that was when everyone kept asking us on our progress, and were giving us advice, and so on. It was like a never ending circle almost. When we wanted to plan the wedding someone kept telling us not to rush and when we weren’t that was when they kept pushing us to plan stuff.

Also,  due to the fact that our wedding is the first one in our families in a long time, everyone keeps wanting to be involved in the planning, to give us pointers, to enforce some customs and so on. It is hard sometime to stop them. And you don’t really want to stop them because it is a big occasion for them also.

A few months ago i was talking to a wedding planner, and she kept telling me that she has lost of couples who don’t want anything to do  with the planning and give her a free hand with everything. Sometimes the idea appeals to me, but then i remember that i am a control freak and i could go mad not knowing what everything will be like.

I hope however, that by the time the wedding comes, i won’t become a Bridezilla. 🙂

RO:

Cred ca totusi pare ca ma plang, dar asta nu e intentia mea. Imi place perioada aceasta din viata noastra. Ne simtim cumva speciali. Toata lumea pare ca ne vrea binele, se bucura pentru noi, vor sa ne ajute. E chiar frumos… Familiile se apropie si asa mai departe.

Nu vreau sa para ca nu am rezolvat chiar nimic, sau ca nu vrea nimeni sa se ocupe de planificare, ba din contra… Singurele lucruri pe care le mai avem de rezolvat acum, mai din timp, sunt videograful si biserica, iar in rest pot sa zic ca stam destul de bine.

Curand cred ca voi merge sa probez niste rochite de mireasa ca sa imi fac o idee despre stiluri si culori si materiale. Desi acum daca stau sa ma gandesc totul e foarte confuz, cu 1000 de nuante de alb, 1000 de materiale si croiuri. Dar o rezolvam si pe asta. Sunt curioasa mai ales de reactia mamei mele cand ma va vedea prima data in rochie de mireasa. Acum nici nu ma pot imagina in una. Mi se pare ca parca nunta pe care o planificam cumva nu e neaparat pentru noi 🙂 E ciudata senzatia. Sunt curioasa cand chiar vom realiza ca ne casatorim :)) Oricum, revenind, probabil ca rochita de mireasa o voi face la comanda, tocmai pentru ca sunt maniaca 🙂

Si in rest….ce sa zic,….astept cu nerabdare petrecerea burlacitelor, nunta, luna de miere si viata noastra impreuna de acum incolo 🙂 Viitorul suna bine.

Va pup si va mai astept pe blog,

Oana

EN:

I think it comes off as if i am complaining, which i am definitely not doing. I like this chapter in our life. I think it makes us feel special. Everyone wishes us only the best, they are happy for us, they want to help us. It is really quite lovely. The families are getting closer and so on.

And i don’t want it to seem like we haven’t booked anything o that no one wants to plan anything.  It’s quite the opposite really.  The only things that we still need to book at this time is the videographer and the church for the religious ceremony.

I think that really soon i will go to try on some wedding dresses in order to have an idea on the styles, materials and colors. Although everything seems quite intimidating, with 1000 white colors and 1000 styles and materials. But i will get through this also. I am more curious of my mother’s reaction when she sees me in a wedding gown for the first time. Right now i can’t even imagine myself in one. This goes with the whole wedding. It doesn’t really feel like we are the ones getting married. It is really a weird feeling. I am curious when we will finally realize that it is our wedding that we are planning :)) Anyway, going back to the dress, it will probably be custom made because i’m a maniac. 🙂

As for the rest….what can i say… i am looking forward to the bachelorette  party, the wedding, our honeymoon and our life from now on 🙂 The future sounds quite nice 😉

Thank you for stopping by to read this,

Kisses,

Oana